Conversation Casanova Summary

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“In order to be truly successful with women you need to become a man who loves women.” – Dave Perrotta

Conversation Casanova, by Dave Perrotta

You see a woman from across the room… you find her to be beautiful in every way… you hesitate, what will you say to make her feel comfortable; how will you attract her?

In 2017, one of the things I want to do is experiment socially: I want to experiment socially in my interactions at work, in my interactions with my friends and family, and with strangers. Currently, I’m 24 and single. I’ve tried online dating through various apps and have gone on a few days in the past couple months.  I want to be more successful and take responsibility for my dating life. I want to be able to approach women and be able to attract them effectively and appropriately. For these reasons, I was drawn to Conversation Casanova, by Dave Perrotta.

Before I get into the book review, I want to make one point clear. First, re-read the quote a the top of the page. “In order to be truly successful with women you need to become a man who loves women.” With this in mind, I want to make it clear that while it may seem sleezy to learn pick-up techniques, I believe these techniques fit in with my overall purpose and mission. Also, how else am I going to meet my future wife? If I don’t learn these techniques, I could be wasting a lot of opportunities with amazing women who could potentially be my future wife.

Summary of Conversation Casanova

Conversation Casanova talks about the strategies of conversing with women. Conversation Casanova is broken up into 6 sections: finding the right mindset, initiating a conversation, flirting, connecting, captivating, and finally some extra tips and questions for making every conversation go well. Perrotta goes into detail in each of these sections, giving tips, common mistakes, and actions steps to implement the ideas he goes over in our daily lives.

Here are three quotes from the book that were meaningful to me:

“Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change with it” – Steve Maraboli

“Your mindsets dictate your thoughts, your thoughts dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your results.” – Dave Perrotta

“One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do.” – Henry Ford

My Takeaways and Action Steps

In Conversation Casanova, Dave Perrotta talks about common mistakes, tips, and gives actions steps for his readers to improve their interactions with women. My takeaways include, changing my mindset towards women, appreciating the inner and outer beauty of people when I’m interacting with them, and to lead all of my conversations so that I can learn something from everyone I interact with.

Changing my Mindset

To the first point, mindset is extremely important. The first two quotes touch on this fact. Perrotta talks about the appropriate mindsets for a Conversation Casanova to develop to be successful with women. To sum up the mindsets, it is a man should have a mission and a purpose, which they are responsible for. Women should not be the #1 priority, but all women are attracted to you until proven otherwise. The last point is something I want to apply in my life and I have in the past few days. A girl was hanging around me at the gym for a few workouts and since I was in the mindset of she is attracted to me until proven otherwise, I said hi and we had a brief conversation.

What Makes You Attractive?

For the second point, this is something I can apply to all conversations and interactions I have with any person. Everyone is unique and beautiful; I want to ask to myself, “What do I like about you?” Is it your vibe? Your personality? The weird quirks you exhibit? The questions you ask? By appreciating the inner and outer beauty of others, you can set yourself up to welcome others into your life. Make them feel comfortable by your presence, compliments, and questions!

Lead my Conversations

Thirdly, I want to be the leader in my interactions with others. I want to be successful with women, and I want to be successful at work. When I’m at work, I take charge; I’m a natural leader and will make a comment when I believe the team is going in the wrong direction on a project.

With dating and meeting women, I will apply the same concept: If I’m attracted to a girl and feel they are as well, I can say, “I think you are cute/interesting/fun/etc. and think we should grab a drink this week or next.” It’s not that hard; we are all people and socializing is fun. It’s time for me to lighten up and start getting to work on this goal!

“Your mindsets dictate your thoughts, your thoughts dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your results.” – Dave Perrotta

My Recommendation

Conversation Casanova is geared towards single males. The thing about “pick-up” books or conversation books is anyone can apply the principles learned in these books to be a better conversationalist and become better at building attraction. (Think about it, even if you are married and at work, you can still work to become more attractive to the people around you so that you will be liked at the office. People like to work with people they like!)

I’d recommend Conversation Casanova to any single guy, whether they be successful or unsuccessful with women. We can all learn to how to be men around women; we can all get better at the game of attraction.

Conversation Casanova

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What are your thoughts on books on conversation and creating attraction? Have you ever looked into pick-up techniques? Do you think people who look into this stuff are sleezy?

Erik

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Comments 4

  1. I’ve read Dale Carnegie’s How to win friends and influence people. While not romantic I think it has some of the same principles.

    Personally the most successful people I’ve seen with the opposite sex are people that are confident and can make the other people feel good about themselves.

    How I ended up getting married I don’t know but my wife obviously thought I was confident enough and she enjoyed my company 🙂

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      Mustard Seed Money, I’ve read Dale Carnegie’s book as well a few years ago and a lot of the books overlap! Even books about business or success, they have the same underlying principles.

      To your last comment, you run a successful blog! I love your content and hope you keep growing because you deserve it 🙂

  2. Great post. Becoming a better conversationalist and making yourself more attractive will help you out in all aspects of life. In many companies, those who get ahead are not always those that work the hardest, but those who are the best at getting noticed and getting others to like them. Not always fair, but in many cases, that’s the way the world works.

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      Thanks for the comment Go Finance Yourself. I have to agree with your comment; politics is inevitable in the workplace unfortunately.

      Trying to improve everyday, things are going well, but have to stay hungry yet balanced 🙂

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