Over the last few days, I’ve had a few conversations with people who seemingly struggle with the same thing.
Heck, over the past few months, this has been a tremendous struggle in my life as well.
I’ve written about this before, but with BALANCE being a recurring theme in my life and conversations, I figured it was time to write about it again.
Balance is so critical in life. This is something you probably understand when you think about it, but not obvious or thought of when out in the world.
In the 21st century, things move fast. Running around at work, running around at home; People seemingly never have enough time to get done with the things they want to get done.
If you subscribe to a life where you live intentionally and want to become better over time like me, you will have hopes, wants, dreams and goals.
With these hopes and goals comes a responsibility to yourself and those around you – some might call this “pressure” or “guilt”.
In this post, let’s dive into balance a little more and why it’s important to live life at your own pace.
The Pressure of Expectations – are they Internal or External?
In the conversations I’ve been having with friends about their thoughts on their goals, I’ve been bringing up balance and trying to discuss the expectations around the situation.
When I set out to do something, a lot of it is from within and what I want to do with my life. Maybe I’m a little bit of a rebel, but these days I try to stay grounded and not influenced by outside opinions or expectations.
I stand up for what I believe in, and stand down for things I need more information on.
With some of the struggles of balance I’ve been learning about with others around me, I try to understand a little more and ask if the struggles are coming from the inside or outside.
Are you driven from within to go and accomplish your goals, OR are you driven to accomplish your goals because you are trying to impress others and make other people happy?
I’ve found that rarely will looking to impress others leads to a happy and fulfilling life.
At the same time though, at work, there are tasks I have to get done for others and I’ll do those happily because my paycheck helps me achieve my financial goals.
After figuring out if the pressure is internal or external, you can start to go down the question rabbit hole.
If the pressures are external, is there anything you can change about the situation to reduce this pressure? Could you change jobs? Change scenery? Is the community you are surrounding yourself with the right community?
If the pressures are internal, why are you expecting so much out of yourself? Could you do more? Are your priorities in the right place? Are there things you could be doing which would allow you to work smarter, not harder?
Starting with this question can help with the question of how to balance your life to better align your actions with a less stressful and more fulfilling experience.
Finding Balance in Life
After starting on the path to balance with answering the question of internal vs. external pressure, there’s still some work to be done.
Now, it’s time to take actions to figure out what’s important to you and how you can reduce the noise of what’s bothering you to let the signal come through.
Take a deep breath and collect yourself. Everyone gets stressed out in life from time to time (and that’s okay).
What’s causing the imbalance in your life right now? What would your life look like if you were in balance? How would you feel?
Many times when we get out of balance, it’s because we have taken on too many things with work, at home, or with friends.
Out of these things, what’s important? Is there anything you could remove to get back your time and energy for what matters?
After reducing the noise in your life, think back to what what’s most important to you and your life. Focus in on what makes you happiest, and you’ll start getting back into balance.
Unfortunately, this process may take a few weeks.
Rarely will things happen overnight.
Maturity and patience is required here as things take time to develop and take shape. Working through the struggle will be worth it though 🙂
Live Life at Your Own Pace
When looking out into the world, it seems that everyone is going one million miles an hour and you need to do the same.
Even though I’m someone who prefers taking action and getting out into the world, first, it’s important to start by asking and understanding what YOU love doing and what will bring YOU joy.
You and I only have one life (as cliche as that is, it’s true).
The key to balance is living life at your own pace.
Figuring out that pace might be a little bit rough at first, but it will be worth it for living a fulfilling life.
I’m someone who likes to live at a faster pace.
There is absolutely NO reason why this should make you feel like you should live at a faster pace (if that’s what you want).
Even though I’m opinionated, I understand people have differences in their work attitudes and personalities. If you want to take it easy on a weekend, do it! Splurge on that ice cream shop down the street! Do what’s necessary to keep you sane and happy!
At the same time, if you are goal driven and want to live intentionally, then it’s important to get back to work after you’ve had your fun.
Balance is so critical in life for leading a fulfilling and happy life. Balance in all areas (relationships, work, money, stress, etc.) can be managed, but will require you to turn inward and seek the truth from within your powerful mind and spirit.
What’s important? What isn’t important? What makes you happiest?
Balance has been on my mind and will continue to be on my mind. I’ll figure it out and I hope you will too.
Thank you for reading!
Readers: how do you balance goals and wants with pure fun? Can these things be the same? Do you have any tips for me on balance in life?
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