“Your level of success is rarely exceeded by your level of personal development, because success is something you attract by the person you become.” – Hal Elrod, The Miracle Morning
If you are like me, you want to be successful. You want to be rich, be famous, win contests, rise up the ladder at work, attract who you want to attract, or be an expert in a certain subject or field. The next logical question is, where to start? If I want X, what do I need to do?
There are so many guides on the internet for you if you want to pursue X. If you want to become better at playing a certain sport or game, there’s tons of tutorials and guides out there with a simple Google or YouTube search.
But how do can we apply those guides and tutorials? How can we take our knowledge, build on it, and then ultimately, reach our goal and be successful?
In this post, I will share with you three books that have helped me out tremendously in my personal development, career and relationships and have helped me become successful in my life.
First, What is Success?
Success is some vague concept that has millions of definitions.
I was listening to a Tony Robbins video the other day and he had the following definition of success:
Success is living your life in a way that causes you to feel a ton of pleasure and very little pain – and because of your lifestyle, have the people around you feel a lot more pleasure than they do pain.
A Google Search of the definition of success returned a few good hits: one article from Business Insider had 9 successful individuals define success. Legendary coach John Wooden defined success in this way:
Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.
In the same article, Richard Branson defines success slightly differently:
The more you’re actively and practically engaged, the more successful you will feel.
My friend Bill, from Wealth Well Done, wrote in a recent article Achieving Your Dreams & Avoiding Prisons that Trap Your Soul this about success:
The secret to a successful life, in my opinion, is simply by staying out of three prisons that will try to incarcerate their souls: self-esteem, financial and physical.
Taking these few definitions, it seems a clear trend of being successful is being better than you were before, living your life in a way that you enjoy, which is productive towards your goals, and being able to share your success with others to help them become better.
For me, success is doing what I want to do with my life. Right now, I feel I’m fairly successful – I’m able to wake up, work on my craft and gain skills, and make money for the future. I’m not stressed about the little things, and can focus on the bigger picture.
How do we become successful though in what we are doing? Enter books – here are 3 books you need to read if you want success.
Book #1 You Need to Read: The Miracle Morning
The Miracle Morning, by Hal Elrod, is all about waking up early to supercharge your performance throughout the day.
In The Miracle Morning, Hal discusses how the average person does not devote the necessary time to personal development. By waking up early and carving out time to work on themselves, people can become the best versions of themselves.
If you aren’t a morning person, Hal gives a strategy for increasing your “Wake up Motivation Level”. His strategy includes setting intentions before bed (last thought in the night = first thought in the morning), moving your alarm clock across the room, brushing your teeth, drinking a full glass of water, and getting dressed in your workout clothes.
The Miracle Morning program is based on the S.A.V.E.R.S program he came up with:
Once you are awake, Hal’s morning program is called S.A.V.E.R.S. and stands for:
- S = Silence (Mediation / Prayer / Reflection)
- A = Affirmations.
- V = Visualization.
- E = Exercise.
- R = Reading.
- S = Scribing (Journaling / Writing)
Hal suggests spending time in each of these 6 areas. Depending on the morning, you can spend as little as 6 minutes on all 6 sections or take as long as you want to complete all 6.
Remarkable Quotes and Passages from The Miracle Morning
Some memorable quotes and passages from The Miracle Morning:
- Find time for personal development each day.
- Your level of success will rarely exceed your level of personal development, because success is something you attract by the person you become.
- Every time you choose the easy thing, instead of the right thing, you are shaping your identity, becoming the type of person who does what’s easy, rather than what’s right.
- Now matters more than any other time in your life, because it’s what you are doing today that is determining who you’re becoming, and who you’re becoming will always determine the quality and direction of your life.
- The moment you accept total responsibility for everything in your life is the moment you claim the power to change anything in your life.
Book #2 You Need to Read: The Slight Edge
Humans are creatures of habit. Every day, we make simple decisions: what to eat, should we exercise, should I call my parents, should I read my book, etc. Are the decisions you are making helping your life? Or are they detrimental to your life? Are they bringing you closer to your goals? Or are you still a long time away from achieving those goals?
The Slight Edge, by Jeff Olson, walks us through a strategy to achieve success in anything we want in life. Do you want to lose weight? Well, first, you have to start. You have to be consistent. A positive attitude helps keep you going. You will have to pay the price, and you may need to be committed for the long haul. It will be worth it!
Essentially, the slight edge is your philosophy of life. The slight edge is your driving force; your philosophy creates your attitudes, which creates your actions, which creates your results, which create your life. You should live your philosophy each day. By performing tasks which will are located on the path to your goals, you can achieve anything.
Your philosophy creates your attitudes, which create your actions, which create your results, which create your life.
If there is anything you want to accomplish in 2017 or in life, just take a step. That’s all you can do initially. No one goes from 0 to 100 in a day. But, by going from 0 to 1 to 2 to 3, you can get there over time. It’s about taking baby steps to start and as you get more comfortable, you can increase the pace – in other words, you sometimes have to slow down to go fast!
Powerful Quotes from The Slight Edge
Here is a list of powerful quotes and blurbs from The Slight Edge: (well, a handful of them… the whole book has many powerful passages!!)
- What you do today matters. What you do every day matters. Successful people are those who understand that the little choices they make matter and because of that they choose to do things that seem to make no difference at all in the act of doing them, and they do them over and over and over until the compound effect kicks in.
- The secret of time is simply this: time is the force that magnifies those little, almost imperceptible, seemingly insignificant things you do every day into something titanic and unstoppable.
- In a world filled with instant coffee, instant breakfast, instant credit, instant shopping, instant information, and 24/7 news, we have come dangerously close to losing touch with reality and believing we have access to instant life. But life is not a clickable link.
- Successful people form habits that feed their success, instead of habits that feed their failure.
Book #3 You Need to Read: The 5 Love Languages
Success without others has a little bit of an empty feeling to me. Having friends, significant others, spouses, and family close to you to share in your success is one of the greatest feelings to experience.
The 5 Love Languages, by Gary Chapman, deconstructs how we want to be loved and how we should communicate our love for others. The 5 Love Languages is a quick and informative read. By applying the techniques Chapman suggests in The 5 Love Languages, anyone can improve their relationship with their spouse, friends, family members or significant others.
Everyone has a primary love language. Being sincere is not enough. We must be willing to learn our spouse’s primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love. By learning the love languages and how to work with them, we can cultivate an amazing and loving relationship with our spouse.
First, let’s go over three truths of love:
- What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage.
- Love is a choice and cannot be coerced.
- My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with the clearest clue to her primary love language.
Understanding the truths listed above sets the stage for the 5 love languages. No one is always consistent in their actions; it is impossible. We must work each and every day on ourselves and on our relationships.
The 5 Love Languages are:
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Receiving Gifts
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
Everyone has their own personal primary love language. Your picture of a perfect mate should give you some idea of your primary love language.
5 Powerful Passages from The 5 Love Languages
- Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse’s perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we give encouragement.
- Learning to listen may be as difficult as learning a foreign language, but learn we must if we want to communicate love.
- Visual symbols of love are more important to some people than others.
- The most important thing you can do for your mate in a time of crisis is to love him or her. If your spouse’s primary love language is physical touch, nothing is more important than holding her as she cries.
- If she feels loved and admired and appreciated by her husband, then she has a desire to be physically intimate with him. Most sexual problems in marriage have little to do with physical technique but everything to do with meeting emotional needs.
Reading these 3 books, but more importantly, APPLYING what you have learned in the books, will get you on the path to success – however you define that success. I’m very thankful I was able to read these books and applied what I learned in them. The Miracle Morning sets up your day for success, The Slight Edge governs your philosophy on life, and The 5 Love Languages influence how you interact with others. Combining these three will get you on the path to success.
I haven’t came across books that have been more influential to my development and I’m glad I can pass on this information to you.
How do you define success? Have you read any of these 3 books? What goals are you working towards?